Building Your Ideal Tribe

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Welcome to The Movement Memo, a bi-weekly newsletter where I share actionable tips to help you live your best day ever, every day.

Today's Programming 

• Movement: Crossfit Semi-Finals Workout #2

• Quote: Meeting people where they are

• Lesson: On finding success and building your tribe

• Optimization: How air quality impacts performance

Today's Movement 

As many rounds and reps as possible in 20 minutes of:

• 50 double-unders

• 10 chest-to-bar pull-ups

• 10 box jumps

• 10 strict handstand push-ups 

♀ 20-inch box

♂ 24-inch box

Today's Quote

When you meet someone for the first time, leave your expectations at the door.

Our pasts do not dictate who we are today, nor do they determine who we will be tomorrow.

Early in my career, I would know everything about someone before I met them.

I would “do my homework” and drive the conversation towards a specific “surprise” connection.

Over time, I recognized this isn’t the way to meet people or build relationships.

We all change with time. We all have the right to start in a new direction.

We’re better off meeting someone with no agenda and learning about where they are in life today.

Today's Lesson Learned

I used to chase friendships.

I used to want to be liked by everyone.

I used to want fancy cars.

I used to want designer suits.

Now I prioritize relationships with people who align with how I truly want to live my life. I want a few close friendships. I don’t care about the car I drive. And I take most of my meetings in sweaty workout clothes, shirtless, or on my mountain bike.

The public perception of success is skewed. When we’re young we chase material goods which we think will make us feel successful. As we mature we realize that those things don’t matter much at all.

When we start valuing our health and relationships we find internal fulfillment that finally allows us to feel successful.

A Harsh Truth: Real friends want to see you win.

Another Harsh Truth: You should want to see your friends win too. 

Your tribe is not found; it’s built. Built at the intersection of the people with whom you spend the majority of your time. 

One question I ask myself every few years: are my friends really my friends? 

About every five years, I enter into a new stage in my life where I recognize the people with whom I am spending time are no longer on the same path. 

They are not the ones who have changed; it’s me. I have grown, and I am ready for the next challenge that life has to offer. 

Making the decision to cut ties with people who no longer serve your goals is scary, and it means saying no to activities, events, and people that you still love. One thing to remember: it’s not that you can never do those things again or that those people are out of your life forever– you are just making the conscious choice to prioritize your current goals. 

You have the ability to shape your inner circle.

This happens when you stop thinking of relationships as transactions; if I give you this, I will get this in return.

And you remove expectations in relationships and start asking how can I help my friend win.

Good friends do this.

These are the people you want in your circle.

These are the people to build your tribe around.

Today's Optimization

I recently got to spend the day with Mike Feldstein, the founder of Jaspr, a company that is the industry leader in Air Cleaning Machines. I wasn’t aware of how impactful (or detrimental) air quality can be on performance and overall health. Living in Denver, at the foot of the mountains, we’re actually in a bubble and routinely have some of the worst air quality in the country.

An environment with elevated levels of CO2 creates brain fog and increases fatigue. Usually when we’ve been inside for a while, we start getting tired but don't know why. We think, we just need to go outside for a breath of fresh air because it's stuffy inside. Really what this means is that the CO2 levels in our room, gym, or office are high.

Here are 5 lessons I learned about poor air quality (and why I ordered 3 Jasprs for my house):

• We spend 90% of our time indoors, where the air can be up to ten times more polluted than outside.

• Modern homes are efficiently airtight, trapping harmful contaminants from cooking to personal care products.

• Pet dander, hidden mold and indoor allergens can exacerbate asthma and allergy symptoms, impacting sleep and daily activities.

• Chronic exposure to indoor pollutants is linked to severe health conditions like cardiovascular disease and cancer.

• The majority of your exposure to outdoor air pollution actually occurs from the air you're breathing indoors.

Since adding the Jaspr units to my home I’ve been able to maintain bouts of deep work for longer, have improved my sleep quality, and felt significant improvements in my overall health and performance, which is why I am excited to offer Movement Memo subscribers a deal: $180 off their Jaspr using code “Hinman” at checkout!

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Publisher: Eric Hinman

Editor-in-chief: Bobby Ryan